I am not able to biologically have children, but Brennah has brought love I've never known into my life and I am so grateful to call her my daughter. Some people go their whole lives not knowing the kind of love Sarah and I have for each other. However, I am beyond blessed to have the spouse I do. I get aggravated when I see stories like this for people who don't have respect for marriage and family and take advantage of it to just, well honestly, cover their ass. It is so very very difficult to stay positive about this. You don't have to live in the right state to have your marriage recognized or be able to adopt children. If you are heterosexual, you don't have to pay thousands of dollars to protect your rights. Well, I don't know about your marriage and or relationship, but mine is more than that. I have to go to court, pay thousands of dollars to get those rights and even then Sarah's family could take me to court to fight those "rights." People like to say, whatever you do in your bed is no one's business (which it isn't). See, I couldn't make any medical decisions for Sarah or Brennah and sometimes wouldn't even be allowed to see either one of them. So, if we are on vacation in say, North Carolina and Sarah, Brennah and I are in an accident of some kind (not going to happen) and I am ok but they aren't, it could be a really big problem if I haven't gone to court. Unless of course, Sarah and I go to court and get papers that protect us both. If Sarah and I get married in one State and go to another, it doesn't really matter in that State. A spouse has rights and priviledges that I don't have with Sarah. But, marriage, as recognized by the government is not just a piece of paper. First, I don't worry about it, I've accepted the state of what is right now. Some say marriage is just a piece of paper and that I shouldn't worry about not having that piece of paper. Some people argue the Bible for the reason to discriminate and I won't go into that except to say that it really shouldn't be a point in government decisions. These are important decision and life choices. This heterosexual couple who are allowed to marry, don't, but one allows the other to adopt them and this is ok.I mean a judge gave the "ok" for this adoption but I am part of a group that threatens the sanctity of marriage and families? Really? I respect marriage. What adult person allows someone else to adopt them? How does this relationship actually work out? Another thing, which I guess is probably the obvious: LGBT people are not allowed to marry or adopt in every state but this man can adopt his girlfriend? The arguments vary from one person to another as to why they oppose this but one big one is because of the sanctity of marriage and to protect families. I mean, where is her self respect? This man is trying to paint this lawsuit as a way to protect money in a trust for his children, which I guess the woman could justify and say she is trying to help the children (weak argument, in my opinion). Now, there are several things that bother me about this article. While "thumbing" through this morning news I came across an article about a wealthy man in Florida who adopted his long time girlfriend in order to "protect" his money from a civil suit against him regarding his decision to drink and drive which ultimately resulted in someone's death. There is a line, and this is with anything you feel passionately about, where you can have feelings about the way things are or aren't and how you let it affect you. It really doesn't matter I guess because it doesn't define me but it is part of who I am.
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